|The 1st sandwich Kellyn made all by herself.|
I wanted to take a picture of it before she ate it, but she was still crying and very upset
I didn't want to add insult to injury by pulling out the camera so I waited until she left the room.
I then hesitated before making my next move. Part of me wanted to stay strong and make her finish her sandwich. Another part of me wanted her feel better. I'm weak...I let her eat 3 chicken nuggets. I figured she had served her actual consequence already so why not give in a little. Besides after thinking about it, God showers us with grace all the time even though we disrespect Him and are ungrateful for the things He gives us daily.
I think I made the right choice because since then she has been so kind and sweet to me! She finished the rest of her sandwich for dinner that night. When Daddy got home from work that night she showed him her sandwich and told him about how she made it all by herself. When he asked why she had to make her own sandwich she said in a silly voice, "I can't tell you." At bedtime she told me that she loved me and hugged and kissed me over and over. The next day, Saturday, she wanted to share part of every meal with me. She gave me a piece of her breakfast bread, a few of her craisins, a bite of her Nutella sandwich (which she wanted to make by herself and did!), a few cherries, a bite slice of her quesadilla. She even gave let me eat the cherry on top of the sundae Max and I got from Sonic after dinner that night plus she offered some of her Strawberry slushy to me. And during the day she kept making me pictures and finding little toys and beads to give me as gifts. Each time I had to tell her No to something, she did not argue. She simply said, "OK, Momma." It's been great.
It really is mentally, physically, and emotionally exhausting work to use self-control, model self-control and teach someone else self-control every day. So don't stress over having to say the perfect thing or come up with the right consequence immediately. Take some time to cool off and think straight before saying something you will regret or can't truly follow through. You can always come back 2 days later with a great lesson from the Bible. They might be more receptive by then anyways. And remember to not only thank God everyday for these precious gifts, but to also ask Him to help you raise them.